While we seem to communicate 100 times more than just a decade ago, the quality of it has not been able to keep up with the quantity. Messages have become shorter and shorter, eye contact is something we mostly have with any sort of a screen, and break-ups and apologies are done so much easier with a Facebook message than in person.
So, if we do not really see, hear or feel the person we communicate with, how do we know what the person means? We very often don’t – actually! What we do is assuming, speculating, sending messages back and forth, showing them to others to interpret them, feeling insecure – and using a lot of energy to do all this!
What would you say if there were guidelines which can help you overcome all these “toxic” side effects of modern communication? And what would you say if you learned that these guidelines were created thousands of years ago?
The Toltec were known as “women and men of knowledge” in southern Mexico. They were scientists and artists who formed a society to explore and conserve the spiritual knowledge and practices of the ancient ones. Thousands of years ago!
Don Miguel Ruiz was born into a family of healers in rural Mexico. He has dedicated his life to sharing the wisdom of the ancient Toltec. In his book “The Four Agreements” he outlines this precious code of conduct the Toltec created. Get to know them, practice them and feel a great relief!
Ladies and gentlemen, here they are, The Four Agreements:
Be impeccable with your word:
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
Don’t take anything personally:
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Don’t make assumptions:
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Always do your best:
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse, and regret.
What do you think? Do these agreements help you? What would you like to share? Do it here!